What limiting beliefs are holding you back?
I hope that you are doing well. I know some of you have been exposed to Covid-19, have been infected with Covid-19, or have family and friends affected in some way. To say this is a challenging time would be an understatement.
What insights about yourself, your health, or your life have you been able to have during this time whether you have sheltered in place or been an essential worker on the front lines of this pandemic?
Interestingly enough, in the process of some deep self-reflection, I have had time to examine a few limiting beliefs I hold about myself and my abilities. It has not always been fun, nor has it been particularly pretty.
Confession time here—despite writing a doctoral dissertation, publishing several articles in peer-reviewed nursing journals, and writing most of my adult life, I continue to struggle with writing and putting myself out there.
I always have great ideas for children’s stories or works of fiction, but every time I sit down to put my thoughts on paper, I see a big, fat RED “F.” How can that be, you might be wondering? Well, I am sharing something with you that I have not shared before.
When I was in the 7th grade, I had an English composition teacher that made us write a gazillion essays. His grading system was simple—you would receive an “A” for the perfect, grammatically correct piece or you would receive an “F” for the slightest infraction or error. No kidding, that was—an A or an F.
Talk about pressure. As you might have guessed, I saw a considerable number of big, red “Fs” that year. To say this squelched any enthusiasm I had for writing would be a dire understatement.
As a result, I have struggled my entire adult life to write and have felt that my ideas and thoughts might not be good enough to share with others. Don’t get me wrong; I don’t believe that this newsletter is a gift to the literary community. Still, it represents one thing that I am doing to release myself from the limiting belief that I am not a writer, so thank you for being a part of my self-care community and reading this composition of my thoughts.
What is one limiting belief that you have about yourself that prevents you from putting yourself out there and offering your real gifts to the world?
What belief are you holding onto—I am not smart enough, I am not thin enough, I am not ________ enough—you fill in the blank!
I challenge you to tell someone this not enough story that you have held onto and notice their response. Saying this “thing” out loud, you will move the energy that has been stuck in your body and mind for so long. Most of the time, what limits us from doing what we want or from living the life we desire, is some tired, old rhetoric that can be traced back to the 7th grade or before.
Now is the time to examine this and release it to the universe.
Your time to shine has come.
So, I am meeting my challenge for myself this month and sharing one of my deepest, limiting beliefs with you. I don’t aspire to be a Nobel Prize-winning author like Toni Morrison, but I would like to be able to put pen to paper to project my thoughts and ideas in a manner that is good enough! More importantly, I want to believe that it is good enough.